19/9/14晚上聼了Bihaj Lalaji的講座：邁向成功的快樂途徑
The Happy Path to
Success，受益匪淺，大概寫一下那晚所學習到的。也謝謝Chris跟我們分享他的領悟。
1）何謂成功？怎樣才算成功？
每個人對成功的定義都不一樣。你可以爲自己設定一個讓自己可以達成的目標而作努力，達成後，這也是一種成功，讓自己快樂。
2）是成功後才會快樂嗎？
很多人會說：“我還未成功，所以我無法快樂起來。”那是真的嗎？孰不知，其實是先讓自己快樂，快樂正面的頻率讓你離成功更近，走得更順利。
3）說正面的話
大家都知道文字有它的能量，說正面的話有正面的能量，負面則是負面的能量。所以我們平常説話也得注意用詞。當然我們的感覺也很重要，心裏擔憂，口說正面，出來的結果是你心中所想的擔憂。
例如：“我的生活常常出現很多問題。”
可以改爲：“我的生活帶給我很多挑戰。”
可以把“問題”改成“挑戰”，“問題”讓人覺得沉重，沒有力量，需要很多能量去應對；而“挑戰”則激勵人有更多衝勁去解決，完成後還有成就感呢？
父母常說的：“我很擔心你的狀況。”
可以改爲：“我很關心你的狀況。”
可以把“擔心”改成“關心”，“擔心”聼起來對孩子很多的憂心，孩子接收到的也是很擔憂的負能量；而“關心”聼起來是對孩子的關懷。
3）正面的思考
“思想決定行爲，行爲決定習慣，習慣決定個性，個性決定命運。”
思維很重要，它無形中會營造出一個人的氣場，所以要常常覺察我們慣用的思想模式，起心動念，是正面的，還是負面的，是好的，還是不好的。正面的思維，自然吸引正面的人，事，物來到我們身邊，而負面思維則吸引負面的人，事，物。當我們覺察到第一個起來的念頭是不好或負面時，就應該馬上要覺察到而制止，不要一直去想它，等到有一天你要去停止這思想時，得花上很大的精力和更多的時間才能停止。如果意識常常能夠在當下那就更好，沒有擔心過去，也沒有憂慮未來。
你是如何詮釋你看到的以上圖片？
同樣的半杯水，有的人是看到缺少的那一半，有的人則看到擁有的那一半，我們看東西的角度會直接影響我們的心情。
4）91法則
只記得別人對我們的好和優點，忘記別人的不好和缺點。不要因爲別人的一個不好，而忘記了別人九個的好。
賞識教育有一句話是我蠻喜歡的：“教孩子99個饅頭而忘記那一個拳頭。”
5） 取消，取消，取消，請離開
我們有時會說不是我有意一直記得他的不好，只是頭腦很自然地浮現。在我們生氣一個人或一件事時，我們可以用大拇指在額頭（眉與眉之間）輕輕地往上推一下，然後說：“
取消，取消，取消，請離開。”直到我們平息爲止，不再放在心上。
6）懷著感恩的心，感恩一切
常常懷著一顆感恩的心，感恩一切我們所擁有的東西以及所遭遇的一切事情。常常感恩的人比較容易快樂，而且他會吸引更多好的東西來到他的生命。
7）為幸福加分
如果我們能靜下來想想，我們是何等的幸福啊。不用耕田，就能吃到米飯；不用耕種，就能吃到新鮮蔬果菜；打開衣櫥和鞋柜，有很多現成的衣服和鞋子給我們穿。當我們把注意力放在我們所擁有的東西，自然就會升起感恩之心，感覺自己活在恩寵，被祝福著，這種幸福感覺油然而生。
每天睡前寫下3件被祝福或快樂的事，為自己的幸福加分。爲什麽要用寫的呢？因爲當你用寫的，就會加深你的印象，記憶深刻。
大家如果可以持續45天做以上所提到的，相信你的生命一定會改變，生活更美好。
祝福你，祝福我！
Attended Mr Lalaji talk on success and
happiness last week, it was a awesome talk and it somehow reminded
myself of what I used to be previously. Let me share with you a
typical cycle that most of us go through.
As we grow up, we start to develop attachment to
many things, we label things as “My”, for example, “my house, my
car, my money, my food, my bag”. We are so obsessed and deluded
that we based our success on these things. And we would only feel
happy when we feel we have achieved this goals and become
successful. As I grew older, most of my friends said, “I want to
have a big house!”, “I want to own a sports car!
”, “I want to earn my first million!” and “I want to move all the
way up the corporate ladder!”, the list could go on and
on......
However most people don’t understand that even if
they reach or achieve their success or goals, things doesn’t stop
there. The answer? Greed. Even when we have piles of food, we still
feel hunger; even if we possess mountains of wealth, we still want
to amass more; and even if we have the power of a king, we are not
satisfied. Is this the way we are going to live our lives?
Sacrificing our youth and our energy, chasing after goals and
achievement that doesn’t seem to have a finishing line.
Mr Lalaji mentioned that happiness should come
before success, which I feel should be the right way. And I am glad
through meditation, I have finally woke up from this horrible
endless cycle. Be glad that you are having a job while other’s may
be struggling to find a job; be glad that we are actually
contributing while others do not even have the chance to
contribute. Feel happy about what you are doing and success will
automatically come to you.
This theory have been proved by Shawn Anchor, a
student from Harvard University. You can google or search in
Youtube for his videos and talks on this. Bottom-line is, when one
feels happy, he or she will most likely be 20% more
productive.
Buddha once said “ Its better to travel well than
to arrive”. Life is not about who owns the biggest house, fastest
car or the most wealth. Life is a
journey.
Second part of the talk, we were being taught
about being grateful and count our blessing. Honestly speaking,
this is easier said than done. We can easily take for granted many
things in our daily life. We expect to be alive the next day; we
expect to buy/get food easily whenever we want; and we expect our
environment to be comfortable for us.
Mr Lalaji taught us to write down 3 things which
we are grateful for daily, I feel this is a good practice! Besides
this method is also mentioned in the book “ Secrets”. The purpose
of doing this is to cultivate a sense of being grateful for
everything, be aware if there’s anything that we took for granted.
It’s not easy and I believe it’s possible with
perseverance!
We were also being told to count our blessing, by
writing down all the wonderful things that happened daily on a
piece of paper. Everyone in this world is blessed one way or
another, hence we should be grateful for
this!
And I end off with a quote from
Rhonda Byrne, author of The Secret, “Be grateful for what you have now. As you
begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful
for, you will be amazed at the never ending thoughts that come back
to you of more things to be grateful for. You have to make a start,
and then the law of attraction will receive those grateful thoughts
and give you more just like them.”
